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Thea Bergh's avatar

"When it ended, what I struggled with most was feeling like someone who I let so close to the whole of me could misunderstand me so deeply." This!!! I also had a long friendship come to an end last year, and I was by no means a saint and definitely part of the reason that person wanted to break out of the friendship, but the hurt I was left with was this exact thing -- that I've been trying to articulate ever since -- the hurt of someone who matters a lot to you choosing to assume bad faith, to assume the worst instead of asking for clarification...It's always painful to be misunderstood but when it comes from someone you've let so close it makes you feel so alone....

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Lizzy Elise's avatar

“Turns out I like my reflection” - thank you for the thoughts and rawness. Very much enjoyed this especially the last bullet.

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Tembe Denton-Hurst's avatar

thank you :)

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jolinda's avatar

Beautiful! At age 64 I've had a few close friendships come and go but mostly I've had core solid friendships for 30,40, 50+ years and they have seen me through the curveballs life has in store. Thanks for sharing this. Made me contemplate!

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Tembe Denton-Hurst's avatar

I love that. Makes me hopeful that I'll have the privilege of carrying the friends I've had since middle school and high school throughout life. I'm glad you enjoyed the read!

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Mbiye Kasonga's avatar

I blush every time you say I’m smart ☺️🥰

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Tembe Denton-Hurst's avatar

the facts are the facts!

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Leonor's avatar

friendship breakups can be utterly devastating.

I like this format. thanks for sharing.

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Tembe Denton-Hurst's avatar

truly! I wouldn't wish it on anyone!

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Alexandria Williams's avatar

This is good!!

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Tembe Denton-Hurst's avatar

🫶🏾 ty sister!!

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Callia's avatar

Really enjoyed this new format 🙌🏾

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Tembe Denton-Hurst's avatar

thank you :)

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Sherisa de Groot's avatar

You be going out a lot. I love it. And making me miss NY. I don’t love that.

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Tembe Denton-Hurst's avatar

LOL. I'm in that rare period of the year where I want to be outside ALL the time.

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Martha's avatar

Love this format tho!!!!

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Tembe Denton-Hurst's avatar

thank you!!

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Wheels's avatar

You are a lovely writer!!! Thank you hunter harris for sharing this 😌💕

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Tara Giancaspro's avatar

You would LOVE Many Love, a book that talks about the fluidity of intimate relationships - it’s nonfiction but with personal essay and animation! https://bookshop.org/a/96677/9781501189784

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